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Author and journalist Candace Bushnell – whose Sex and the City column for the New York Observer was adapted into the ground-breaking TV series and subsequent movies – has opened up about why she chose not to have children.
Chatting to Saga Magazine, she said being a mum wasn’t never really on her radar – mainly because of all the worry it brings with it.
“If I had kids, all I’d think about is, ‘What kind of planet are we going to leave for them?” she said. “My heart would break 20 times a day.”
She continued: “I’m not saying that kids haven’t been talked about in the past… But I’d always find myself looking at the world and being glad I didn’t have kids. It’s just not me.”
While Bushell is happy to date men of all ages – tabloid gossip recently had her dating a 21-year-old and a 91-year-old in the same week – she’s currently single as she’s just doesn’t have the time.
She said: “It takes time and effort to build up the momentum of a decent relationship and, hell, I’m just too busy.”
One of those things that’s keeping her busy right now is her UK tour. She’s about to hit venues across the country with her show, True Tales of Sex, Success and Sex and the City. In it, she talks about why she wrote the original column, discusses the show and films, and takes questions from the audience.
While she believes dating has changed dramatically since she started writing her column 30 years ago – “we were starting to question the status quo” – she believes that some things haven’t changed.
“The dating world has been transformed by the internet, but not much else has changed,” she said. “The power structure is still aimed at men, dating apps are still aimed at men.”
Candace Bushnell’s tour, True Tales of Sex, Success and Sex and the City, starts on 2 February
Written by Danny Scott