Why we should all master the art of döstädning

That’s why, when we came across The Swedish Art of Ageing Well, the new book from Swedish author Margareta Magnusson, we were reminded of the important messages from her first book, Döstädning – The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning.

In a nutshell, döstädning is all about appreciating and enjoying all you have so you can be free to enjoy the next stage of your life, without worrying about what you are leaving behind.

With spring cleaning season well under way, it’s likely you’re already taking stock of your belongings. And if you’ve followed our decluttering advice or you’re already a fan of the Marie Kondo technique, the good news is you’re already on the right path.

Magnusson explains that death cleaning is less about getting rid of things, and more a reminder that it’s never too soon to start taking control of your possessions.

“After all, death cleaning is mostly about getting organised, not dying,” she explains. “[It’s] not about dusting or mopping up, it is about a permanent form of organisation that makes your everyday life run more smoothly.”

And let’s be honest, if we’re going to take advice at this stage in our lives, who better to turn to than someone with 80-100 years of experience? (Margareta has yet to reveal her true age.)

If you have one, these spaces are where we tend to temporarily store belongings until we next need them. The reality is, we often never use them again. Declutter these first.

Tell friends and family what you are doing. There will always be someone in your life who needs something or knows someone who does. Your belongings may find a new home more easily than you think.

They carry too many emotions and you want to be able to enjoy that part of the process, not rush it.

There’s often less of these making it an easier job to sort them out quickly.

Everything you own will likely fall into a category, such as ‘clothes’ or ‘books’. Write a list of categories that covers the items you have in your home, stick to it and start with an easy category.

“An easy category is one that is extensive and without too much sentimental connection.” Magnusson

Create two piles – one to keep and one to get rid of.

Invest in a cloth bag or apron with a large pocket to use when cleaning. Whenever you see something that’s not in its rightful home, pop it in your bag or pocket and put it where it belongs.

“Mess is an unnecessary source of irritation. Give everything a place and you won’t feel angry, irritated, or desperate when leaving the house.”

From coat hooks to storage baskets, an organised hallway is key to a happy home.

If you’re heading to a dinner party, take a gift of a treasured piece of crockery or set of table linen. “Life will become more pleasant and comfortable if we get rid of some of the abundance,” says Magnusson.

It can be easy to assume that older items have no value. Magnusson talks about photographs that only seem to be about memories but may in fact hold historical worth. Always check with a family member if you’re not sure.

Magnusson says she allows one week per room. It’s not always needed but if you have time left over, spend it on yourself. “Take your time and proceed at a pace that suits you,” she advises.

Although the subject of getting rid of possessions can be difficult to discuss with family and friends, Magnusson suggests that holiday gatherings are often a good time. While she doesn’t recommend talking about it in the middle of celebrations, because holidays are often events built around excess, taking the opportunity of a holiday to talk about how to reduce excess can be an easy way to start the conversation.

Keep reminding yourself that you’re doing this for yourself and your family. It will help make the task less onerous.

Your list should have four columns: giveaway, throw, and move. Complete the list as you go along and when you’ve finished, put the lists with your personal paperwork so they can be easily referenced if someone else needs to check them.

If you’re downsizing, make sure you know the measurements of the furniture you want to take with you so that you can check that each piece will fit before you move.

Paper shredders are a key piece of equipment when it comes to decluttering. They ensure sensitive information won’t fall into the wrong hands.

Celebrate the fact that in decluttering and simplifying your life, you are also benefiting the environment. We live in a world of mass-consumerism, but you’re helping to reduce this by donating and recycling.

“Our planet is very small. It may perish under the weight of our consumerism. Recycling and donating can help.”

What may seem generous can in fact add to the burden. “Don’t offer things that do not fit the recipient’s taste or the space in which they live…,” advises Magnusson. “If they think your feelings might be hurt, it may be difficult for them to say no.”

If you have items or belongings that may cause someone distress to find them when helping to sort out your home, then maybe it’s time to remove them now. Think of it as your gift to them.

“It is perhaps a thoughtful gift to those loved ones who may be cleaning for us later if we do a little bit of our own cleaning now,” says Magnusson.

Don’t feel guilty for not keeping presents. The memory is often in the gifting experience, rather than the item itself.

“To be grateful and happy for a present when you first receive it is something different because that gratitude is not connected to the thing itself but to the giver,” says Magnusson.

Photos and letters will naturally take time to go through. Make sure you allow yourself enough time to enjoy the trip down memory lane. Don’t worry if you laugh or cry, it’s all part of the experience.

You still have use for a little black book. In this instance, use it to store all the details someone might need to access for you if you weren’t able. Remember to keep it locked away safely if you choose to do this.

To emphasise the value of storing information digitally, Magnusson tells us how she found boxes of slides filled with photographic memories. She bought a small film scanner and spent time uploading them all onto her computer. She was then bought USB sticks and downloaded all the images onto the sticks as a Christmas gift for her children. These priceless memories would otherwise have been lost.

While it’s ok to keep hold of items you really can’t bear to part with, sometimes you have to learn to let go.

“Sometimes you just have to give cherished things away with the hope that they end up with someone who will create new memories of their own,” Magnusson explains.

A shoe box should be big enough. It’s a place to temporarily store those little items that mean the world to you, but are of little value to others. Mark it for disposal if required, but it gives you a precious and accessible box of memories you can enjoy whenever you desire.

Magnusson admits: “There are a few things I would like to save for myself alone… old love letters, programmes, memories from travelling.”

Magnusson’s book has certainly given us a lot to think about, and although her approach shares some similarities with Marie Kondo’s methods for decluttering, there’s an extra layer of warmth and appreciation for life contained within the pages that we love.

We’ll end with some final words of wisdom from the Swedish author.

“Death cleaning is something you can do for yourself, for your own satisfaction. One’s own pleasure and the chance to find meaning and memory, is the most important thing.

“It is a delight to go through things and remember their worth.”